Friendships— are we cultivating the right kind?

A recent conversation with a close friend got me thinking how important it is to surround ourselves with the kind of people that positively impact our lives.

People walk in and out of our lives quite often but some…they stick around for a while longer(or a lifetime). With them, we share our life; goals, ambitions, problems and in general things that take place in our lives. For this reason, I believe it’s wise to take a moment every now and then, to ponder on the responses we receive during these friendly conversations. It can help us evaluate the kind of friendships/relationships we are nurturing.

The past few years have been the most challenging years of my life. Two years back, I became a mom and embraced the life of a stay at home mom. Which meant I had to give up my full time job and get accustomed to a completely different life. Challenges of parenthood is a topic that deserves its own post but for context, it’s been quite challenging.

Between chores, feeding and changing nappies, I yearned for something more. I absolutely loved being a mom and enjoyed spending time with my little one but the truth was I’ve worked since I was 19 and I had just turned 29 when I had my baby. The change was difficult to adapt to at once.

I still wanted to work so I tried to take on freelance projects as a writer but everyone kept asking for portfolios and samples which at the time I didn’t have. Then I started this blog, first as a pass time but eventually I was sending out my url for clients as my portfolio.

To my surprise, there were so many who loved my work and signed me up. Long story short, looking back, it’s been nearly two years since. Even though all of this is still work in progress, I truly feel proud to have created something for myself.

There’s a reason why I laid out my story… none of this would have been possible if I didn’t have people who believed in me, friends who encouraged me, brainstormed with me and sometimes just listened to all the whining and complaining. Those who helped me through the frustrations of motherhood, those who pushed me through my writer’s blocks and even those who prayed with me when life got difficult.

Regardless of your education qualifications, social status or even wealth, nothing will push you to greatness than the right people in your life. Relationships are everything! The right relationships will not only make you successful but also a better person.

I have a very closely knitted circle of friends and to be able to share every struggle, achievement and failure is such a blessing.

So if you find people who would make time for you, simply to listen, bounce off ideas with or offer positive and uplifting advice, nurture these relationships. These relationships will even add value to your existing ones.

We all live very busy lives and someone taking the time to pickup the phone and call you or drop by to babysit your little one or grab a cup of coffee with you means something. Don’t you think? In an era when everything seems very superficial, be bold and make real connections. Deepen these relationships and give them your best❤️

“Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher.” — Oprah Winfrey

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